A little while ago I was complaining that Daniel kept falling and that my heart could not cope. It is so hard isn’t it? Someone responded to my complaint and said “Babies are designed for falling, don’t worry he will be fine”. This statement should go under the list of things to NOT say to a mom after her baby has fallen. No matter how true the statement may be.
Having your baby take a fall is scary. Daniel started crawling 2 months ago right before he turned 8 months. He is now walking against things and took his first step on Youth Day (Where is this child growing to?). With all of this in mind you can only imagine how much he is getting up to at home.
One morning a few Saturday’s ago Ian and I counted 3 falls in the space of one hour. GUYS! My heart wants to wrap this child in bubble wrap, because the heartbreaking little cry that follows the big bang on the tiles – just kill me inside.
My point is that mostly I think it’s more traumatic for me than for him. Once he has been picked up and his attention is diverted which takes all of 10 seconds, he is fine. So fine, he is ready to start trying to walk again. I mean really could he not just give me a 15 minute break? With all of this I tend to react with either my facial expressions or letting out a big gasp, squeal or something of the sort.
Daniel takes his cues from me, and sometimes I think that even though he didn’t really have a “hard” fall – he cries because I am already freaking out just because he has fallen. What am I going to do about this? With Emilie I actually taught myself to not respond. Mainly because a reaction was mostly what she was looking for when she brought disgusting stuff into the house, but also because
Emilie girls can be very dramatic (myself included)!
When DJ (baby) falls I will:
- Not react, no outer reactions anyway (heavy breathing, sighing, facial expressions included)
- Walk over and calmly say “Oh no did DJ fall over?”
- Calmly check for injuries and assess – give a hug and a kiss and smile
In preparation for this practice I have also purchased a bicycle helmet to get DJ to wear when not in my arms.