Not too long ago, I flipped out because my daughter kept something from me, something I felt I should know. (I wrote about it here.) I later thought about how I am constantly trying to teach my child “life lessons” by example, like learning how to love the skin you are in. Mostly I feel pretty strongly about it in most instances, but when confronted with whether I lie to my kids, I wasn’t as confident about the answer. Which brings me to my next question – is it okay to lie to your kids?
When Emilie has done something wrong, she gets punished. Breaking the rules are punishable offences. I’ve always been proud of the fact that she has a sense of discipline, she is obedient and there is respect between the two of us. Lately however, I’ve found that she isn’t as forth coming about her mistakes as I would like. Obviously in the moment it makes me angry, but isn’t this why she isn’t telling me things? Am I encouraging dishonesty with my reactions? How are you supposed to react when your child does the wrong thing? Where is the boundary? How do you instil boundaries without fear? (more…)