For the last two weeks I’ve been grappling with how exactly I would write about my child’s new found preteen attitude. It’s not new I guess. It’s slowly been creeping in while I wasn’t looking, until WHAM, I got knocked out by an eye roll when asking about homework.


Of course, I had to do a double take as this, this behaviour is not like my child. Maybe she is having an off day, I initially consoled myself. Perhaps I have done something differently, in turn making her behave differently. The thing is though – I haven’t. What I have been doing? Is reacting like someone who has lost their marbles to the sarcastic answers, eye rolls and back chatting. I’ve been questioning my parenting, my discipline, my very way of thinking because well, it’s just so hard to accept.

She’s there. It’s official. I play around with the word “preteen” because she’s 12 in a few months but really it’s here already. That dreaded grey area. The time in a mom’s life where her child becomes a foreigner in their home. I’ve heard about it. Waited with baited breath, whilst sheepishly wishing it away. Truth be told, I was a terrible teen. Not one that I would want to parent myself – ever. Maybe that’s why I’m not really sure how I feel about it. I know I feel disrespected sometimes, and completely taken for granted. Sorry mom!

I am also though, a little tender that my darling child, my sweet princess – is acting like a little shit! It’s been hard to share with friends, because well, as any parent, I wouldn’t want anyone thinking less of her. This isn’t like her, at all!

Dramatic? Yes, this mama is full of drama. Now picture my offspring!


Let’s face it though, children are manipulative. They really are. I know this. I see it with my toddler. My preteen however, has hit me for six! She is sweet and sensitive, and with that knows how to pull at my heart strings. So when I speak a little louder, and it results in tears – I feel really guilty. I may or may not be allowing her to get away with murder in these moments.

What am I going to do about it? Where do we go from here? I don’t know. I haven’t done this before and Mr Google unfortunately can only help me so far. I’m going to have to put on my big girl panties, roll with the punches, and be the mom this girl needs. Who is this brave mother? I don’t quite know myself, but I do know that this mom will find her way to the surface soon.

Until then, I’m praying for patience, understanding and wisdom.

In the Meantime – not having it all figured out is just part of the fun right? Mom’s of a preteen give me a shout!

17 Comments on Eye rolls, back chatting and sarcasm.. My preteen has arrived!

  1. I don’t have any advice to offer. But all I can say is good luck! And you do what you think is best for your child. Who cares what other people think. It’s your child. You have the final say πŸ™‚ I’m not even there yet as Dudie is only 8yrs old and Troll 1 but that is a completely different ball game altogether. Kids and their phases…I wonder if they think “adults and their phases…” LOL
    Happy Monday!

  2. My daughter is 9 and the preteenishness has hit us already. I’m finding it so hard to view it sensitively and with understanding. Maybe I’m being a bit of a preteen myself! I haven’t enjoyed this new phase at all, but I also know that I need to adjust my thinking and be the mom she needs right now. Strength to you!

    • And to you – but like Lauren said she is finding herself, and we can’t take it personally. I think this calls for another blogpost just because I’m like yes, that’s it. Because I feel like a preteen too. I’m like oh hell no you didnt! LOL… Sending you lots and lots of patience! xx

  3. I’m not going to lie, I’m scared for this. When they are little it’s busy, noisy, chaotic and crazy but they love you unconditionally all the time and believe everything you tell them. I’m so not ready to enter the years where they know best and I’m not their “to go to” person anymore! Thanks for this…. xxx

    • Isn’t it crazy how sometimes we wish this time away (when they are little) only for them to really grow out of it, and again us to wish it away because it’s hard. I’m trying to love every moment because time flies and we never get this time back again! xx

  4. I’m going through this πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ I have to say to myself ‘Lauren, be the adult! Breathe! Be the adult!’ I also find myself saying ‘this is not her’. But it is her, she’s just trying to find herself and we can’t take it personally. Hormones!

  5. I can so relate to this. And yes like you I have been looking to see where I have gone wrong. Not for sissies😩πŸ’ͺ

  6. My daughter is turning two tomorrow. Altho she is two, she is really very much to handle (Just survived a crying tantrum in Spar for no apparent reason, which welcomed enough stares & tut tuts to last a lifetime! My husband actually had to tell a man to just give us some space!). Judging from this, its only going downhill from here lol. Might as well run and hide while I can. I guess we are women, we have to understand what they’re going through. After all, we also went through these stages of life, God only knows how my parents must have put up with me! All the best with your daughter β™‘β˜†β™‘β˜† (I think my comment is too long lol πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜… – it happens and im sorry πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ) sending you ‘patient vibes’

    • LOL thank you – I look at my toddler and I’m thinking WTH is waiting come this age… because the temper tantrums too drive us up the wall! Good luck! Thank you for the patient vibes I definitely need them! xx

  7. Ah my mom raised 3 girls, and we are all relatively close in age, so pre teen and ten years were all on top of each other. She said those were her worst parenting years! Ah so much to look forward to! All the best as you navigate these tricky waters! Megan xxx

  8. Oh wow having just read this…finally I realize I’m not alone!! My daughter just turned 12 and she is the sweetest, kind hearted and gentle young lady but suddenly I find myself living with a stranger in the house not knowing what goes on in her head with the eye rolling, stroppyness and head butting with her mama! Stubborn to the full…as a single mom with an only child I feel out of control in this ‘grey area’ of preteenhood!πŸ™ˆ But as they say this too shall pass until I guess I have to pick my battles and walk on egg shells while trying to raise my mini-me!

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